Nollywood Actress, Chika Ike, in recent
interview, gave an in person cite into her
troubled marriag person e:
I understand this is a sensitive topic
but could we talk about your marriage.
How long were you married for?
I was married for about five years.
The end of your marriage brought up a
lot of speculation with people
insinuating different reasons in the
media but up till date you haven’t
really come out to say what went
wrong. Why are you quiet about it?
I’m a very private person and I keep
my private issues to myself. As an
actress, there are some things I don’t
want to let out. My marriage is a very
sensitive topic and I don’t really like to
speak about what I went through.
The major rumored reason was
domestic violence and this is
something a lot of women face in their
marriages. A popular website once
advised that you tell your story so that
other women can learn from your
experience.
Maybe when the right time comes, I’d
talk about it. There is something I’ve
been avoiding saying but I’d tell you.
I’m separated and I’m working on my
divorce and very soon I’d get a
divorce.
Even if it’s so hard to believe, I’ve
decided to let bygones be bygones
and move on without him in my life.
Both of us are still on talking terms
and I’ve also learnt to forgive him.
Maybe when I’m done with my divorce,
I would be able to talk about it. I’m
going through a lot of emotions right
now and it’s still very fresh.
I quite understand. Do you think
getting married at a young age was a
disadvantage or had anything to do
with the way it ended?
I think it has to do with so many
reasons, one of them might be being
young. Some people get married that
young and have been able to make
their marriages work. But if you’re
young, you’re young.
There are some things you’ve not
experienced. You might not be able to
stay calm when you’re supposed to
stay calm, understand when you’re
supposed to understand or leave what
you’re supposed to leave.
Also, I think these days, a lot of people
are not happy in their marriages. I
have a lot of friends who would have
left their marriages but because of the
African society, their in-laws, what
people will say or other factors, they
stay. We’ve heard of a lot of deaths
caused by bad marriages and before
the death, there would have been
signs, things that have been
happening leading up to that.
I think it has to do with age and so
many other things like compatibility
and not being true to yourself in the
marriage. Everybody has a limit. There
are some things in marriage that you
might not be able to stand. Some
people’s limit might not be my limit;
my limit might be somebody’s starting
point.
Have you moved on and are you
willing to try again?
I’ve moved on but marriage right now
is not at the top of my list. I’m still
trying to get myself together. I don’t
want to make the same mistake twice.
I have to understand the person I’m
going to be with. There are so many
things involved.
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